Reminds me of the quote “seek first to understand, then to be understood.” And Oprah’s book “What happened to you?”
Trauma before the age of 7 is said to have the biggest impact on how we act as adults because the brain lacks the cognitive ability in real time to process whatever is happening.
If the world could put themselves in others shoes the way you did here, I imagine it would look a lot different.
You’re so right Megan. Children are incredibly perceptive long before they have language. Research shows we begin registering emotional states even in utero, and in those early years the brain is absorbing everything without the capacity to interpret it. We don’t choose our survival patterns... they form around us.
What’s been humbling for me is realizing that once we do have awareness, we also have responsibility. Not for what happened, but for how we carry it forward.
Thank you for bringing that depth into the conversation.
This is SO POWERFUL and SO TRUE! Thank you Lisa. Oh, that I will embed this deep in my heart and soul that I remember the next time someone is upset with me -- to ask this question first in my heart response -- then in my manner or responding to them in deeper love. What happened to you? Please tell me your story so I will understand you. It's not about me and my pain -- love looks over my pain to see and understand their pain. Wonderful Lisa!!
It's amazing how a slight shift in the question can make a huge difference. Everyone has a complicated story. Seeking other perspectives besides our own can be healing.
What an incredibly beautiful post!!!! Thank you
I’m grateful…thank you.
A very good read..
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Thankyou friend.
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Reminds me of the quote “seek first to understand, then to be understood.” And Oprah’s book “What happened to you?”
Trauma before the age of 7 is said to have the biggest impact on how we act as adults because the brain lacks the cognitive ability in real time to process whatever is happening.
If the world could put themselves in others shoes the way you did here, I imagine it would look a lot different.
Well written, as always. Thank you.
You’re so right Megan. Children are incredibly perceptive long before they have language. Research shows we begin registering emotional states even in utero, and in those early years the brain is absorbing everything without the capacity to interpret it. We don’t choose our survival patterns... they form around us.
What’s been humbling for me is realizing that once we do have awareness, we also have responsibility. Not for what happened, but for how we carry it forward.
Thank you for bringing that depth into the conversation.
This is SO POWERFUL and SO TRUE! Thank you Lisa. Oh, that I will embed this deep in my heart and soul that I remember the next time someone is upset with me -- to ask this question first in my heart response -- then in my manner or responding to them in deeper love. What happened to you? Please tell me your story so I will understand you. It's not about me and my pain -- love looks over my pain to see and understand their pain. Wonderful Lisa!!
I like the way you said this Alan. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
It's amazing how a slight shift in the question can make a huge difference. Everyone has a complicated story. Seeking other perspectives besides our own can be healing.
You are so right Cayla. Thanks for sharing this.